How can I navigate the transition between my old and new identity without forcing 3D action or endless affirmations, especially when my body still responds with resistance and internal pressure?

I currently find myself in the transition phase between my old and new identity. Deep down, I know my desired reality is anchored, but as time passes, with 3 months of no contact and no real signs of movement, my ego panics and tries to force 3D action or seek validation.

How can I navigate this limbo state and hold space for the transition without forcing endless affirmations, especially when my body still responds with resistance and internal pressure?

Also, the old story of how he cut me off still shows up every now and then. Is this the main reason why I have not seen real movement so far? I am using EFT and nervous system regulation. Thank you.